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How Do I Babywear Safely and Comfortably? hope&plum’s Tips and Tricks

At hope&plum, every carrier we create is packed with love, comfort, and one of our most important values— safety. Safe babywearing is all about positioning baby and using your carrier correctly. Safety is key to keeping you and your little one snuggled up happily and comfortably. We’ve put together some easy-to-follow tips to help you feel confident every step (or nap!) of the way while wearing your baby. 💛

TL;DR:
  • Choose the right carrier for your baby's development. 
  • Follow all carrier instructions and check out brand tutorials. 
  • Inspect your carriers frequently, adding a quick check in each time you wear. 
  • Get the right fit, practice, and listen to your body.
A BIPOC straight size woman practices safe babywearing as she stands and smiles down at a baby worn on her hip in a ring sling

Choosing the Right Carrier

Starting your safe babywearing journey? It’s smart to do a little research first! Baby carriers come in different styles, each designed with specific features to fit certain weights, ages, and developmental stages. Finding the right one can make all the difference.


For example, baby wraps and the Sprout Newborn Carrier are perfect for those cozy newborn snuggles, but they’re not ideal for toddlers. Meanwhile, our Lark Baby Carrier is our go-to for older babies and toddlers—but it’s not a safe fit for a newborn.


If you’re dreaming of versatile options, a Meh Dai or Lark will give you both front and back carry positions. Want to rock a hip carry? The ring sling is your best friend! Whatever your needs, there’s a carrier ready to support you and your little one through every adventure. ✨

A BIPOC plus size woman practices safe babywearing while wearing her baby in a ring sling on her hip

Remember that not all of these babywearing positions are appropriate for all children. See below for a chart that shows the different positions, carriers that can be used for them, and the milestones your child should be achieving before trying them.

Position

Carrier

Milestone

Front (facing inward), legs in

  • Optional to start at minimum weight
  • Stop when baby shows standing reflex

Front (facing inward), legs out

  • Safe to start at minimum weight and fit
  • Continue throughout maximum weight and safe fit

Hip

  • Safe to start when baby can be held on the hip with minimum support without a carrier
  • Continue throughout maximum weight and safe fit

Back

  • Safe to start when baby is sitting unassisted and fitting in the carrier without accommodations
  • Continue through maximum weight and safe fit
A white plus size woman practices safe babywearing while she stands in profile smiling with her toddler on her back in a buckle carrier

Follow Manufacturer Instructions

After you purchase your carrier, be sure to read all included manufacturer instructions so you can practice safe babywearing. All hope&plum carriers come with instructional booklets that explain how to properly and safely use each carrier. We also have a tutorials page and free one-on-one consultations with our dedicated educator team.


You should also read all warning labels and tags on your carrier and familiarize yourself with the carrier’s weight limits.

A close up of a warning label being sewn into a carrier for safe babywearing. The sewing machine and guiding hands can be seen.

Inspect Your Carriers

hope&plum carriers are made with care and integrity and are subject to the highest degree of babywearing safety testing. This is why they can truly become the stars of your parenting toolkit. You may reach for them all day every day, so they go through a lot. This is why it’s important to inspect your carriers to make sure they stay safe and secure for you and your little one throughout years of safe babywearing use.

A white plus size woman with a buckle carrier clipped around her waist inspects her carrier to practice safe babywearing

Each time you go to grab your carrier to babywear your little one, do a quick safety inspection by answering “Yes” or “No” to the following questions:

  • Do any weight bearing seams or hems show signs of unraveling or ripping?
  • Are any buckles cracked?

  • Is the safety loop on my Lark missing or not working properly?

  • (If doing a back carry in the Lark:) Is my chest strap missing?


If you answer “Yes” to any of these questions, it’s time to pause and reassess. Please stop using that carrier or position right away. You can order replacement parts on our website, or reach out to our customer support team at  hello@hopeandplum.co  with details about the issue—we’re happy to help!


In the meantime, use another carrier or switch up your carry position to stay safe while waiting. Our warranty covers manufacturing defects, but we can often help with things like broken buckles and more. It never hurts to ask! 💌

A top down view of an open cardboard box filled with carriers labeled as "fixes marked," one of our checks to practice safe babywearing

Proper Positioning for Safe Babywearing

There’s a ton of safe babywearing positioning advice out there, but we’re here to break it down into the basics! Whether you’re carrying a baby, toddler, or older child, these tips apply to all of our carriers:

  • Your little one should always be upright. In a front or hip carry, their head should be close enough to kiss. 😘
  • Their thighs should be fully supported to the knees, with their knees slightly higher than their bottom (think a comfy “M” shape for those legs!).

For infants, their head should rest gently on your chest with a natural curve to their spine that looks like a “C” from the side. As your child grows and gains head, neck, and trunk control, their posture will shift to a “J” shape with their torso and upper legs.

A white plus size woman practices safe babywearing as she wears a baby wearing boots and bar in a ring sling on her front

When worn properly, all of our carriers support your child’s natural development while keeping them snug, secure, and comfortable. Check out the graphics below for some visual tips on nailing those positions!


TIP: To see these larger, right click the image and view in another tab!

Branded infographic describing ABCs of safe babywearing with a table and cartoon of a BIPOC woman wearing a on her front in a stretchy wrap
Branded infographic of safe babywearing T.I.C.K.S. tips checklist and cartoon of a BIPOC woman wearing a baby on her front in a meh dai
Branded infographic of the M-shape safe babywearing tip with a photo of a white woman wearing her baby with an M outlined on the baby's body

Letter

Safety Rule

What It Means

How to Check

T

Tight

Carrier should be snug against your body

No sagging, baby doesn't slump

I

In view

You can see baby's face at all times

Fabric doesn't cover face, chin visible

C

Close enough to kiss

Baby's head is kiss-distance from your chin

Bend head forward to kiss without straining

K

Keep chin off chest

Airway is open

At least 2 finger widths between chin and chest

S

Supported back

Baby's back is firmly supported

No slouching, natural C-curve for newborns or J-curve for older children

Practice Makes Perfect

Now it’s time to practice safe babywearing with your carrier! If baby isn’t here yet, or even if they are, it can be a good idea to practice with a stuffed animal, doll, or even pillow. This way you can get the basics down without the risk of dropping your baby or using the carrier incorrectly. When you’re ready to try with baby, don’t get discouraged if you don’t get it right immediately. 

A BIPOC woman practices safe babywearing as she prepares to put a baby in a stretchy wrap

All carriers have a learning curve, and it can take some time to get used to safe babywearing with something new! hope&plum has lots of instructional videos and wearing tips on our website, Facebook group, Instagram, and TikTok. And we offer free virtual fit checks for anyone with one of our carriers whether purchased from our store or from another community member.

A BIPOC straight size woman smiles at the camera while practicing safe babywearing with her child in a buckle carrier on her front

Listen to Your Body

As you get more comfortable babywearing and using your carrier with your child, make sure you’re listening to yourself and your body. If something feels off or not right, stop, reposition your child, or them off and start again. If you’re experiencing discomfort or pain, stop, reposition your child, or them off and start again. 

A BIPOC woman practices safe babywearing and smiles down at her baby sleeping in a ring sling on her front

Safe babywearing isn’t just about the carrier—it’s also about building up your own strength! Don’t worry if you can’t carry your toddler for hours right away. It’s totally normal for your body to need time to adjust. Think of it as working toward a goal, one snuggle at a time. 💪


But listen to your body—pushing too hard or wearing the carrier incorrectly can lead to discomfort or even injury. At hope&plum, we’ve designed carriers to be as comfortable as possible for everyone. If you’ve eased into it, followed all the safety tips, and still feel uncomfortable, it might be time for a fit check. Or honestly? Just get a fit check anyway—we’re always here to help! ✨

A white plus size woman with a head scarf smiles while practicing safe babywearing with her sleeping baby on her front in a buckle carrier

Listen to Baby Too!

And don’t forget to listen to your baby! Typically developing babies will let you know when they’re uncomfortable. If your baby cries for more than five minutes in the carrier and nothing soothes them except taking them out, there’s a good chance something needs adjusting.


But let’s be real—just because a baby is worn correctly and comfortably doesn’t mean they’ll never fuss. Babies fuss all the time (even if they love being worn!). They might be hungry, need a diaper change, or just be frustrated that it’s taking you longer than 0.2 seconds to set up your carrier. 😅


A little wiggling or stretching is totally normal too. Babies are just doing what they do best—letting us know how they feel! 💛

A close up of a BIPOC baby worn in a ring sling on the front with their caregiver looking down at them while practicing safe babywearing

If your baby is fussy in the carrier, take a moment to check that you’re following all the safety tips. Then try switching things up—bounce a little, walk around, head to a different room, or step outside for a change of scenery. 🌞


Still fussy? No problem. Take a babywearing break! Take them out and check if they’re hungry, need a diaper change, or just need a little reset. And if nothing else works (you know where I’m going with this 😉)— schedule a fit check! We’ll help you and your baby get comfy, happy, and ready for more snuggles. 💛

A white woman laughs down at her baby in a buckle carrier while practicing safe babywearing

Safe Babywearing FAQ

What's the most dangerous mistake in babywearing?

Allowing baby's chin to rest on their chest, which can restrict airway and cause positional asphyxiation. This is especially dangerous for newborns under 4 months. Always ensure you can see baby's face, chin is lifted, and airway is clear.

How do I know if my baby is breathing okay in the carrier?

You should observe baby's chest rising and falling and feel their breath on your body. Baby's skin color should be normal, not pale or blue and baby should be responsive, not limp. A proper fit will allow you to monitor this in the background constantly, but it's a good idea to deliberately check in every 10-15 minutes for a newborn or a sleeping baby at any age.

Is it safe to breastfeed in a baby carrier?

Yes, with a few things in mind! Nurse in an upright position. Loosen the carrier just enough to get baby access. Keep in mind that this lowered nursing position may not longer be handsfree. Always reposition baby back to that T.I.C.K.S. position after feeding. Never keep baby in a loose and lowered carrier, even if they're asleep. After nursing, return baby to a snug position with head supported and airway clear.

What activities should I never do while baby wearing?

Never: cook over hot stoves, ride bikes/motorcycles, drive cars, use power tools, ride horses, jump/run vigorously, or sleep with baby in carrier. 

Use extreme caution: hiking on uneven terrain, bending repeatedly, or during sports.

How tight is too tight in a carrier?

The carrier should be snug but not restrict breathing. You should be able to slide a flat hand between baby and the carrier fabric. Baby's body shouldn't be compressed, but should be firm against you with no sagging. If baby's skin changes colors, loosen or take baby out and readjust. Keep in mind, some compression marks are totally normal as long as they don't hurt baby and fade away after a little while post-wearing.

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